As I delve deeper into minimalism, I’ve realized how important it is to have a decluttered mind. If I had decluttered my mind this morning, I would have remembered to bring in the kiwis we’ve had for 2 weeks into the office so maybe they would get eaten!
This is where mental minimalism comes in. For me, mental minimalism is about focus. It’s about trying to quiet down all the things that are going on in our heads so that we can focus on one single thought or task. I used to be a huge proponent of multitasking, but as I’ve gotten further in my career, became a wife, and then a mother, I’ve realized you can miss a lot by multitasking. My four-year-old has some really insightful things to say, that sometimes get missed because my thoughts are on something else. So, as I am trying to figure out how to focus on the present, I’ve found a few things that have helped me, albeit temporarily, get there:
1) Put down your phone. People say this all the time, but if you want to be focused on your kids, you’re going to have to put your phone away. I put mine on top of our fireplace mantle. It’s high enough that I don’t immediately see it if I’m looking around the room. Also, I would have to get up from the floor if I’m playing with my kids to go get it and if I am already on the floor, I’m not going to get up (unless there is an emergency).
2) Reflect. After the kids go to bed and you’ve had time with your spouse, find some quiet time for yourself to reflect on your day and listen to your heart. Now, if you’re like me, you also have bottles to sanitize and dishes to wash or clothes to put away, etc. Still, even if it’s 5 minutes of reflection right before you go to bed or even if you’re already in bed, it will help to quiet your mind and give you better sleep!
3) Write. I love LISTS. My favorite part about a list is that once you’ve written something down, you can usually not think about it until you’re ready to tackle said list. So, write it down and put it somewhere you can find when the time comes to do whatever it is you didn’t want to forget. It helps leave room in your head to focus!
I plan to delve deeper into mental minimalism in another post, but for now, these three simple steps seem to be helping me keep focused on my family. I hope they help you too!!!